Writer and Publisher gives a quick overview of a much misunderstood insult that can be taken the wrong way if not applied correctly
I can say I've been there. While I've STOPPED before doing anything insane I've had an ex wife (when I was married to) say "Go ahead and do it. I won't feel anything." with a knife in hand and blade to my wrist. What I thought then was "Oh FUCK. Who will take care of my kid? Who will entertain all my friends? Who will comfort them when they have a loss? Who?" and I set the knife down to the dismay of my ex who later divorced me and ran off leaving my son with me. I had things to take care of and they sure as hell weren't some psychopath who would encourage me to end my life. Despite my body being all kinds of messed up with damage to my spine, disks in my spine, brain contusions and neurological damage from a Semi-Truck sideswiping me (my passenger had a dislocated arm and detached retina) I pulled through. It was bad enough I had discovered my wife at the time was cheating on me, messing with my friends, and otherwise planning to ditch everything once the time came but I made it through. I was THERE. I've known the desperation of escape when your body has given up and when you're mental state is so degraded that there is ONLY a single out aside from THROUGH the grueling grind of building yourself back. Let me tell you, walking, forming coherent word patters, thinking, wiping my own ass and working full time and being a full time dad is harder when you're still recovering from a wreck that normally breaks peoples necks and kills them.
So about almost a decade later, 7 years after the divorce, I've embraced the fact that I've felt that way. With the suicide of Robin Williams, a hero and conversational partner I've met twice, I've gone about a different approach. If someone is a really bad person I'll tell them "Eat shit and die" or "I suggest suicide to cure your problem." because unless they're in a serious mental state it comes across as a huge insult. I've also found psychopaths and sociopaths IMMEDIATELY go into victimization "OH MY GOD HE THREATENED MEEEHUR!" or "YOU CAN'T TELL PEOPLE THAT URRF!" or "OH MAH FUCK CALL THE FBI!" when they don't understand it's meant to be a degrading insult along the lines of:
"You're not a worthwhile person and you don't contribute anything to society as a whole. As a matter of fact the world would probably be a better place if you were not in it. You should probably shut up and realize that you're a giant moron with no substance beyond whatever social veneer and status quo that you have assumed as your public face and the only remedy would be a radical departure from the norm."
I've even gone as far as to post links to Maddox and follow it up with far more vulgar insults.
Maddox telling it like it is...wait..what?
Good people who are in a bad mental state often will say "Oh shit...fuck off" or something along those lines. People who are just IN a bad mental state can be enticed and that's why you probably shouldn't use it as an insult to people who are handicapped or mentally retarded in some way.
Years later I found myself dealing with the very ex wife who had encouraged me to "do it" and my response to her walls of fabrication was the same thing. As SOON as I did she immediately started to go absolutely irate taking screenshots of non government websites and the statements I made on FB AFTER I had made the insult sarcastically over the phone with a "You should get life insurance then kill yourself if it's too hard to pay child support that you agreed to and have been dodging for years." followed by a "Remember when you told me to "do it, you wont feel anything." I never said anything to you then but I am now." and I felt liberated. I was finally able to say what she did was fucked up and now she gets to deal with it! Freedom of Speech at work people!
So if anyone is ever a slime ball, shithead, or some kind of total troll with no integrity whatsoever just tell them that their solution is in their hands! Unless they actually kill themselves (which sociopaths will NOT do in most cases) it's a form of expression.
If you think someone is really fucked in the head though..refer them to a psychiatrist because no amount of prayer or space alien overlord voodoo will fish their fucked up shit.
